Ability Forum

[Kr_iyer]

Big Difference
  by: Author Unknown, Source Unknown

The Boss drives his men, The Leader inspires them..
The Boss depends on authority, The Leader depends on goodwill..
The Boss evokes fear, The Leader radiates love..
The Boss says "I", The Leader says "We"..
The Boss shows who is wrong, The Leader shows what is wrong..
The Boss knows how it is done, The Leader knows how to do it..
The Boss demands respect, The Leader commands respect

_________________
If they answer not to thy call walk alone,
If they are afraid and cower mutely facing the wall,
O thou unlucky one,
open thy mind and speak out alone.
RABINDRANATH TAGORE

Big Difference
  by: Author Unknown, Source Unknown

The Boss drives his men, The Leader inspires them..
The Boss depends on authority, The Leader depends on goodwill..
The Boss evokes fear, The Leader radiates love..
The Boss says "I", The Leader says "We"..
The Boss shows who is wrong, The Leader shows what is wrong..
The Boss knows how it is done, The Leader knows how to do it..
The Boss demands respect, The Leader commands respect

_________________
If they answer not to thy call walk alone,
If they are afraid and cower mutely facing the wall,
O thou unlucky one,
open thy mind and speak out alone.
RABINDRANATH TAGORE

[Adverts]

[Unnimaxx]

Untouched
The very purpose for being in this body, for every one of us, is to live and rejoice in that virgin area, that untouched, pure and ever green, blissful area of our Self.

A Point In Us
There is a point in us that will remain ever pure, total joy, and bliss---bliss that can never be taken away from us.

I Am Not the Body
This definite knowledge, that I am not the body, I am the Self, I am the space, I am the Imperishable, untouched, untainted by the "prakriti," by this world around me; this body is all hollow and empty, and every particle in this body is changing, and changing, and changing; the mind is changing and changing and changing---this definite knowledge is *the* way out of the cycle.

Soul Mates
I tell you, you can never meet your soulmate unless you meet your soul. If you haven't met your own soul, how can you meet your soulmate?!

Keep a Little Distance
From time to time keep a little distance from whoever is very close to you, take a time off for your own space and go deep into your Self, dig deep. You are an ocean, there's so much wealth deep inside you, so much beauty!

Untouched
The very purpose for being in this body, for every one of us, is to live and rejoice in that virgin area, that untouched, pure and ever green, blissful area of our Self.

A Point In Us
There is a point in us that will remain ever pure, total joy, and bliss---bliss that can never be taken away from us.

I Am Not the Body
This definite knowledge, that I am not the body, I am the Self, I am the space, I am the Imperishable, untouched, untainted by the "prakriti," by this world around me; this body is all hollow and empty, and every particle in this body is changing, and changing, and changing; the mind is changing and changing and changing---this definite knowledge is *the* way out of the cycle.

Soul Mates
I tell you, you can never meet your soulmate unless you meet your soul. If you haven't met your own soul, how can you meet your soulmate?!

Keep a Little Distance
From time to time keep a little distance from whoever is very close to you, take a time off for your own space and go deep into your Self, dig deep. You are an ocean, there's so much wealth deep inside you, so much beauty!

[Unnimaxx]

1. A day without sunshine is like night.

2. On the other hand, you have different fingers.

3. 42.7 percent of all statistics are made up on the spot.
  
4. 99 percent of lawyers give the rest a bad name.
  
5. Remember, half the people you know  are below average.
  
6. He who laughs last, thinks slowest.
  
7. Depression is merely anger without enthusiasm.
  
8. The early bird may get the worm,  but the second mouse gets the cheese in the trap.
  
9. Support bacteria. They're the only culture some people have.
  
10. A clear conscience is usually the sign of a bad memory.
  
11. Change is inevitable, except  from vending machines.
  
12. If you think nobody cares,  try missing a couple of  payments.
  
13. How many of you believe in psycho-kinesis? Raise my hand.
  
14. OK, so what's the speed of dark?
  
15. When everything is coming your way, you're in the wrong lane.
  
16. Hard work pays off in the future.  Laziness pays off now.
  
17. How much deeper would the ocean be without sponges?
  
18. Eagles may soar, but weasels don't get sucked into jet engines
  
19. What happens if you get scared half to death, twice?
  
20. Why do psychics have to ask  you for your name?
  
21. Inside every older person is a younger  person wondering, "What the hell happened?"
  
22. Just remember....if the world didn't suck, we would all fall off.
  
23. Light travels faster than sound.  That's why some people appear bright  until you hear  the  speak.

24. Life isn't like a box of chocolates. It's more like a jar of  jalapenos

1. A day without sunshine is like night.

2. On the other hand, you have different fingers.

3. 42.7 percent of all statistics are made up on the spot.
  
4. 99 percent of lawyers give the rest a bad name.
  
5. Remember, half the people you know  are below average.
  
6. He who laughs last, thinks slowest.
  
7. Depression is merely anger without enthusiasm.
  
8. The early bird may get the worm,  but the second mouse gets the cheese in the trap.
  
9. Support bacteria. They're the only culture some people have.
  
10. A clear conscience is usually the sign of a bad memory.
  
11. Change is inevitable, except  from vending machines.
  
12. If you think nobody cares,  try missing a couple of  payments.
  
13. How many of you believe in psycho-kinesis? Raise my hand.
  
14. OK, so what's the speed of dark?
  
15. When everything is coming your way, you're in the wrong lane.
  
16. Hard work pays off in the future.  Laziness pays off now.
  
17. How much deeper would the ocean be without sponges?
  
18. Eagles may soar, but weasels don't get sucked into jet engines
  
19. What happens if you get scared half to death, twice?
  
20. Why do psychics have to ask  you for your name?
  
21. Inside every older person is a younger  person wondering, "What the hell happened?"
  
22. Just remember....if the world didn't suck, we would all fall off.
  
23. Light travels faster than sound.  That's why some people appear bright  until you hear  the  speak.

24. Life isn't like a box of chocolates. It's more like a jar of  jalapenos

[srividyaa]

Once a boy went to a shop with his mother. The shop keeper looked at the small cute child and showed him a bottle with sweets
  
and said 'Dear Child..u can take the sweets...

But the child didnt take. The shop keeper was surprised.. such a small child he is and why is he not taking the sweets from the bottle. Again he said take the sweets....

Now the mother also heard that and said.. take the sweets dear.. Yet he didnt take... The shopkeeper seeing the child not taking the sweets... he himself took the sweets and gave to the child. The child was happy to get two hands full of sweets.


While returning  home the Mother asked the child... Why didnt you take the sweets, when  the shop keeper told you to take?..

Can you guess the response: Child replies... Mom! my hands are very small and if i take the sweets i can only take few.. but now you see when uncle gave with his big hands.... how many more sweets i got!


Moral: When we take we may get little but when God gives... HE gives us more beyond our expectations... more than what we can hold..!!

Once a boy went to a shop with his mother. The shop keeper looked at the small cute child and showed him a bottle with sweets
  
and said 'Dear Child..u can take the sweets...

But the child didnt take. The shop keeper was surprised.. such a small child he is and why is he not taking the sweets from the bottle. Again he said take the sweets....

Now the mother also heard that and said.. take the sweets dear.. Yet he didnt take... The shopkeeper seeing the child not taking the sweets... he himself took the sweets and gave to the child. The child was happy to get two hands full of sweets.


While returning  home the Mother asked the child... Why didnt you take the sweets, when  the shop keeper told you to take?..

Can you guess the response: Child replies... Mom! my hands are very small and if i take the sweets i can only take few.. but now you see when uncle gave with his big hands.... how many more sweets i got!


Moral: When we take we may get little but when God gives... HE gives us more beyond our expectations... more than what we can hold..!!

[srividyaa]

I learned that I like my teacher because she cries when we sing "Silent Night". -Age 5

I learned that our dog doesn't want to eat my broccoli either. -Age 7

I learned that when I wave to people in the country, they stop what they are doing and wave back. -Age 9

I learned that just when I get my room the way I like it, Mom makes me clean it up again. -Age 12

I learned that if you want to cheer yourself up, you should try cheering someone else up. -Age 14

I learned that although it's hard to admit it, I'm secretly glad my parents are strict with me. -Age 15


I learned that silent company is often more healing than words of advice. -Age 24

I learned that brushing my child's hair is one of life's great pleasures. -Age 26

I learned that wherever I go, the world's worst drivers have followed me there. -Age 29

I learned that if someone says something unkind about me, I must live so that no one will believe it. -Age 30

I learned that there are people who love you dearly but just don't know how to show it. -Age 42

I learned that you can make some one's day by simply sending them a little note. -Age 44

I learned that the greater a person's sense of guilt, the greater his or her need to cast blame on others. -Age 46

I learned that children and grandparents are natural allies. -Age 47

I learned that no matter what happens, or how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow. -Age 48

I learned that singing "Amazing Grace" can lift my spirits for hours. -Age 49

I learned that motel mattresses are better on the side away from the phone. -Age 50

I learned that you can tell a lot about a man by the way he handles these three things: a rainy day, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights. -Age 51

I learned that keeping a vegetable garden is worth a medicine cabinet full of pills. -Age 52

I learned that regardless of your relationship with your parents, you miss them terribly after they die. -Age 53

I learned that making a living is not the same thing as making a life. -Age 58

I learned that if you want to do something positive for your children, work to improve your marriage. -Age 61

I learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance. -Age 62

I learned that you shouldn't go through life with a catcher’s mitt on both hands. You need to be able to throw something back. -Age 64

I learned that if you pursue happiness, it will elude you. But if you focus on your family, the needs of others, your work, meeting new people, and doing the very best you can, happiness will find you. -Age 65

I learned that whenever I decide something with kindness, I usually make the right decision. -Age 66

I learned that everyone can use a prayer. -Age 72

I learned that even when I have pains, I don't have to be one. -Age 82

I learned that every day you should reach out and touch someone. People love that human touch-holding hands, a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back. -Age 90

I learned that I still have a lot to learn. -Age 92

I learned that I like my teacher because she cries when we sing "Silent Night". -Age 5

I learned that our dog doesn't want to eat my broccoli either. -Age 7

I learned that when I wave to people in the country, they stop what they are doing and wave back. -Age 9

I learned that just when I get my room the way I like it, Mom makes me clean it up again. -Age 12

I learned that if you want to cheer yourself up, you should try cheering someone else up. -Age 14

I learned that although it's hard to admit it, I'm secretly glad my parents are strict with me. -Age 15


I learned that silent company is often more healing than words of advice. -Age 24

I learned that brushing my child's hair is one of life's great pleasures. -Age 26

I learned that wherever I go, the world's worst drivers have followed me there. -Age 29

I learned that if someone says something unkind about me, I must live so that no one will believe it. -Age 30

I learned that there are people who love you dearly but just don't know how to show it. -Age 42

I learned that you can make some one's day by simply sending them a little note. -Age 44

I learned that the greater a person's sense of guilt, the greater his or her need to cast blame on others. -Age 46

I learned that children and grandparents are natural allies. -Age 47

I learned that no matter what happens, or how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow. -Age 48

I learned that singing "Amazing Grace" can lift my spirits for hours. -Age 49

I learned that motel mattresses are better on the side away from the phone. -Age 50

I learned that you can tell a lot about a man by the way he handles these three things: a rainy day, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights. -Age 51

I learned that keeping a vegetable garden is worth a medicine cabinet full of pills. -Age 52

I learned that regardless of your relationship with your parents, you miss them terribly after they die. -Age 53

I learned that making a living is not the same thing as making a life. -Age 58

I learned that if you want to do something positive for your children, work to improve your marriage. -Age 61

I learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance. -Age 62

I learned that you shouldn't go through life with a catcher’s mitt on both hands. You need to be able to throw something back. -Age 64

I learned that if you pursue happiness, it will elude you. But if you focus on your family, the needs of others, your work, meeting new people, and doing the very best you can, happiness will find you. -Age 65

I learned that whenever I decide something with kindness, I usually make the right decision. -Age 66

I learned that everyone can use a prayer. -Age 72

I learned that even when I have pains, I don't have to be one. -Age 82

I learned that every day you should reach out and touch someone. People love that human touch-holding hands, a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back. -Age 90

I learned that I still have a lot to learn. -Age 92

[Unnimaxx]

It is often believed that glory and dispassion are contradictory and cannot co-exist. Glory and luxury without dispassion is a nauseating pomp and show. Such glory does not bring fulfillment for anyone… it is shallow. Alternately, the dispassion that is afraid of glory is weak. True dispassion is oblivious to glory.
The glory that comes with dispassion is something that is true, that is permanent and authentic. When someone runs after glory they are shallow. Like movie stars, politicians and religious leaders who try to hold on to their status, to their glory, they are certain to lose. If you run after glory all you get is misery. When you are dispassionate, glory comes to you.
If you are afraid of glory, that means you are not well-founded in dispassion. In India, the Sadhus run away from glory. They think they will lose their dispassion and get trapped in the web of the world, the circus. The dispassion is so blissful, they get attached to the dispassion. (laughter)
They are afraid of losing the dispassion, the centeredness and bliss that comes along with it. This is weak dispassion. Dispassion is a state of being and glory is the happening around it. True dispassion can never be lost or overshadowed by glory.
True dispassion is glorious!
Real glory is true dispassion!

It is often believed that glory and dispassion are contradictory and cannot co-exist. Glory and luxury without dispassion is a nauseating pomp and show. Such glory does not bring fulfillment for anyone… it is shallow. Alternately, the dispassion that is afraid of glory is weak. True dispassion is oblivious to glory.
The glory that comes with dispassion is something that is true, that is permanent and authentic. When someone runs after glory they are shallow. Like movie stars, politicians and religious leaders who try to hold on to their status, to their glory, they are certain to lose. If you run after glory all you get is misery. When you are dispassionate, glory comes to you.
If you are afraid of glory, that means you are not well-founded in dispassion. In India, the Sadhus run away from glory. They think they will lose their dispassion and get trapped in the web of the world, the circus. The dispassion is so blissful, they get attached to the dispassion. (laughter)
They are afraid of losing the dispassion, the centeredness and bliss that comes along with it. This is weak dispassion. Dispassion is a state of being and glory is the happening around it. True dispassion can never be lost or overshadowed by glory.
True dispassion is glorious!
Real glory is true dispassion!

[srividyaa]

Three Sentences for getting Success:



a)     Know More than Other



b)     Work More than Other



c)      Expect Less than Other

Three Sentences for getting Success:



a)     Know More than Other



b)     Work More than Other



c)      Expect Less than Other

[Kr_iyer]

Training for the Presidency
  by: Orison Swett Marden, Good Stories for Great Holidays

"I meant to take good care of your book, Mr. Crawford," said the boy, "but I've damaged it a good deal without intending to, and now I want to make it right with you. What shall I do to make it good?"

"Why, what happened to it, Abe?" asked the rich farmer, as he took the copy of Weems's "Life of Washington" which he had lent young Lincoln, and looked at the stained leaves and warped binding. "It looks as if it had been out through all last night's storm. How came you to forget, and leave it out to soak?"

"It was this way, Mr. Crawford," replied Abe.

"I sat up late to read it, and when I went to bed, I put it away carefully in my bookcase, as I call it, a little opening between two logs in the wall of our cabin. I dreamed about General Washington all night. When I woke up I took it out to read a page or two before I did the chores, and you can't imagine how I felt when I found it in this shape. It seems that the mud-daubing had got out of the weather side of that crack, and the rain must have dripped on it three or four hours before I took it out. I'm sorry, Mr. Crawford, and want to fix it up with you, if you can tell me how, for I have not got money to pay for it."

"Well," said Mr. Crawford, "come and shuck corn three days, and the book 's yours."

Had Mr. Crawford told young Abraham Lincoln that he had fallen heir to a fortune the boy could hardly have felt more elated. Shuck corn only three days, and earn the book that told all about his greatest hero!

"I don't intend to shuck corn, split rails, and the like always," he told Mrs. Crawford, after he had read the volume. "I'm going to fit myself for a profession."

"Why, what do you want to be, now?" asked Mrs. Crawford in surprise.

"Oh, I'll be President!" said Abe with a smile.

"You'd make a pretty President with all your tricks and jokes, now, would n't you?" said the farmer's wife.

"Oh, I'll study and get ready," replied the boy, "and then maybe the chance will come."

_________________
If they answer not to thy call walk alone,
If they are afraid and cower mutely facing the wall,
O thou unlucky one,
open thy mind and speak out alone.
RABINDRANATH TAGORE

Training for the Presidency
  by: Orison Swett Marden, Good Stories for Great Holidays

"I meant to take good care of your book, Mr. Crawford," said the boy, "but I've damaged it a good deal without intending to, and now I want to make it right with you. What shall I do to make it good?"

"Why, what happened to it, Abe?" asked the rich farmer, as he took the copy of Weems's "Life of Washington" which he had lent young Lincoln, and looked at the stained leaves and warped binding. "It looks as if it had been out through all last night's storm. How came you to forget, and leave it out to soak?"

"It was this way, Mr. Crawford," replied Abe.

"I sat up late to read it, and when I went to bed, I put it away carefully in my bookcase, as I call it, a little opening between two logs in the wall of our cabin. I dreamed about General Washington all night. When I woke up I took it out to read a page or two before I did the chores, and you can't imagine how I felt when I found it in this shape. It seems that the mud-daubing had got out of the weather side of that crack, and the rain must have dripped on it three or four hours before I took it out. I'm sorry, Mr. Crawford, and want to fix it up with you, if you can tell me how, for I have not got money to pay for it."

"Well," said Mr. Crawford, "come and shuck corn three days, and the book 's yours."

Had Mr. Crawford told young Abraham Lincoln that he had fallen heir to a fortune the boy could hardly have felt more elated. Shuck corn only three days, and earn the book that told all about his greatest hero!

"I don't intend to shuck corn, split rails, and the like always," he told Mrs. Crawford, after he had read the volume. "I'm going to fit myself for a profession."

"Why, what do you want to be, now?" asked Mrs. Crawford in surprise.

"Oh, I'll be President!" said Abe with a smile.

"You'd make a pretty President with all your tricks and jokes, now, would n't you?" said the farmer's wife.

"Oh, I'll study and get ready," replied the boy, "and then maybe the chance will come."

_________________
If they answer not to thy call walk alone,
If they are afraid and cower mutely facing the wall,
O thou unlucky one,
open thy mind and speak out alone.
RABINDRANATH TAGORE

[Unnimaxx]

If we observe our behavior, we procrastinate doing something good but we are in a hurry when it comes to doing something bad. For example if we are angry we want to express it immediately and not wait.

Do you know WHY?
Because virtues are your very nature and they will never leave you. Your vices are not your nature and they will leave you. The negative tendencies are transient and they will leave you if you do not act on them. Frustration, crying cannot stay for long, at least with the same intensity. Perhaps we are concerned that the vices will leave us if we do not act on them.

It is only wise to postpone the vices for they will not stay and act immediately for doing good, otherwise we will keep postponing the good for the next few lifetimes.

If we observe our behavior, we procrastinate doing something good but we are in a hurry when it comes to doing something bad. For example if we are angry we want to express it immediately and not wait.

Do you know WHY?
Because virtues are your very nature and they will never leave you. Your vices are not your nature and they will leave you. The negative tendencies are transient and they will leave you if you do not act on them. Frustration, crying cannot stay for long, at least with the same intensity. Perhaps we are concerned that the vices will leave us if we do not act on them.

It is only wise to postpone the vices for they will not stay and act immediately for doing good, otherwise we will keep postponing the good for the next few lifetimes.

[Unnimaxx]

A man was exploring caves by the seashore. In one of the caves he found a canvas bag with a bunch of hardened clay balls. It was like someone had rolled clay balls and left them out in the sun to bake.


Theydidn't look like much, but they intrigued the man, so he took the bag out of the cave with him. As he strolled along the beach, he would throw the clay balls one at a time out into the ocean as far as he could.


He thought little about it, until he dropped one of the clay balls and it
cracked open on a rock. Inside was a beautiful, precious stone!

Excited, the man started breaking open the remaining clay balls. Each contained a similar treasure. He found thousands of dollars worth of jewels in the 20 or so clay balls he had left. Then it struck him.

He had been on the beach a long time. He had thrown maybe 50 or 60 of the clay balls with their hidden treasure into the ocean waves. Instead of thousands of dollars in treasure, he could have taken home tens of thousands, but he had just thrown it away!


He had been on the beach a long time. He had thrown maybe 50 or 60 of the clay balls with their hidden treasure into the ocean waves. Instead of thousands of dollars in treasure, he could have taken home tens of thousands, but he had just thrown it away!


It's like that with people. We look at someone, maybe even ourselves, and we see the external clay vessel. It doesn't look like much from the outside. It isn't always beautiful or sparkling, so we discount it. We see that person as less important than someone more beautiful or stylish or well known or wealthy. But we have not taken the time to find the treasure hidden inside that person.


There is a treasure in each and every one of us. If we take the time to get to know that person, and if we ask God to show us that person the way He sees them, then the clay begins to peel away and the brilliant gem begins to shine forth.


May we not come to the end of our lives and find out that we have thrown away a fortune in friendships because the gems were hidden in bits of clay. May we see the people in our world as God sees them.

A man was exploring caves by the seashore. In one of the caves he found a canvas bag with a bunch of hardened clay balls. It was like someone had rolled clay balls and left them out in the sun to bake.


Theydidn't look like much, but they intrigued the man, so he took the bag out of the cave with him. As he strolled along the beach, he would throw the clay balls one at a time out into the ocean as far as he could.


He thought little about it, until he dropped one of the clay balls and it
cracked open on a rock. Inside was a beautiful, precious stone!

Excited, the man started breaking open the remaining clay balls. Each contained a similar treasure. He found thousands of dollars worth of jewels in the 20 or so clay balls he had left. Then it struck him.

He had been on the beach a long time. He had thrown maybe 50 or 60 of the clay balls with their hidden treasure into the ocean waves. Instead of thousands of dollars in treasure, he could have taken home tens of thousands, but he had just thrown it away!


He had been on the beach a long time. He had thrown maybe 50 or 60 of the clay balls with their hidden treasure into the ocean waves. Instead of thousands of dollars in treasure, he could have taken home tens of thousands, but he had just thrown it away!


It's like that with people. We look at someone, maybe even ourselves, and we see the external clay vessel. It doesn't look like much from the outside. It isn't always beautiful or sparkling, so we discount it. We see that person as less important than someone more beautiful or stylish or well known or wealthy. But we have not taken the time to find the treasure hidden inside that person.


There is a treasure in each and every one of us. If we take the time to get to know that person, and if we ask God to show us that person the way He sees them, then the clay begins to peel away and the brilliant gem begins to shine forth.


May we not come to the end of our lives and find out that we have thrown away a fortune in friendships because the gems were hidden in bits of clay. May we see the people in our world as God sees them.

[Kr_iyer]

After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman out to dinner
and a movie.

<http://funlok.com/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=965&Itemid=26>

She said I love you but I know this other woman loves you and would love to
spend some time with you.


The other woman that my wife w anted me to visit was my MOTHER, who has been
a widow for 19 years, but the demands of my work and my three children had
made it possible to visit her only occasionally.


That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie.


"What's wrong, are you well," she asked? My mother is the type of woman who
suspects that a late night call or a sur prise invitation is a sign of bad
news.


"I thought that it would be pleasant to be with you," I responded. " Just
the two of us."


She thought about it for a moment, and then said, " I would like that very
much."


That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit nervous.
When I arrived at her house, I noticed t hat she, too, seemed to be nervous
about our date. She waited in the door with her coat on. She had curled her
hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last
wedding anniversary.


She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel's.


"I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were
impressed, "she said, as she got into the car. "They can't wait to hear
about our meeting".


We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy.
My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady. After we sat down,

I had to read the menu. Large print. Half way through the entries, I lifted
my eyes and saw Mom sitting there staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on
her lips.

"It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small," she said.


"Then it's time that you relax and let me return the favor," I responded.


During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation - nothing extraordinary,
but catching up on recent events of each other's life. We talked so much
that we missed the movie.


As we arrived at her house later, she said, "I'll go out with you again, but
only if you let me invite you." I agreed.


"How was your dinner date ?" asked my wife when I got home. "Very nice. Much
more so than I could have imagined," I answered.


A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so
suddenly that I did to do anything for her.


Some time later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt
from the same place mother and I had dined.


An attached note said: "I paid this bill in advance. I wasn't sure that I
could be there; but nevertheless, I paid for two plates - one for you and
the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant for me. I
love you, son."


At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: " I LOVE
YOU!" and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve.


Nothing in life is more important than God and your family. Give them the
time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off till "some other
time."


Pass this along to everyone with an aging parent, to a child, to an adult,
to anyone with a parent. Here's hoping today is better than yesterday and
tomorrow.

_________________
If they answer not to thy call walk alone,
If they are afraid and cower mutely facing the wall,
O thou unlucky one,
open thy mind and speak out alone.
RABINDRANATH TAGORE

After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman out to dinner
and a movie.

<http://funlok.com/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=965&Itemid=26>

She said I love you but I know this other woman loves you and would love to
spend some time with you.


The other woman that my wife w anted me to visit was my MOTHER, who has been
a widow for 19 years, but the demands of my work and my three children had
made it possible to visit her only occasionally.


That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie.


"What's wrong, are you well," she asked? My mother is the type of woman who
suspects that a late night call or a sur prise invitation is a sign of bad
news.


"I thought that it would be pleasant to be with you," I responded. " Just
the two of us."


She thought about it for a moment, and then said, " I would like that very
much."


That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit nervous.
When I arrived at her house, I noticed t hat she, too, seemed to be nervous
about our date. She waited in the door with her coat on. She had curled her
hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last
wedding anniversary.


She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel's.


"I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were
impressed, "she said, as she got into the car. "They can't wait to hear
about our meeting".


We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy.
My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady. After we sat down,

I had to read the menu. Large print. Half way through the entries, I lifted
my eyes and saw Mom sitting there staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on
her lips.

"It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small," she said.


"Then it's time that you relax and let me return the favor," I responded.


During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation - nothing extraordinary,
but catching up on recent events of each other's life. We talked so much
that we missed the movie.


As we arrived at her house later, she said, "I'll go out with you again, but
only if you let me invite you." I agreed.


"How was your dinner date ?" asked my wife when I got home. "Very nice. Much
more so than I could have imagined," I answered.


A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so
suddenly that I did to do anything for her.


Some time later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt
from the same place mother and I had dined.


An attached note said: "I paid this bill in advance. I wasn't sure that I
could be there; but nevertheless, I paid for two plates - one for you and
the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant for me. I
love you, son."


At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: " I LOVE
YOU!" and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve.


Nothing in life is more important than God and your family. Give them the
time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off till "some other
time."


Pass this along to everyone with an aging parent, to a child, to an adult,
to anyone with a parent. Here's hoping today is better than yesterday and
tomorrow.

_________________
If they answer not to thy call walk alone,
If they are afraid and cower mutely facing the wall,
O thou unlucky one,
open thy mind and speak out alone.
RABINDRANATH TAGORE

[Kr_iyer]

Once upon a time there was an island, where all the feelings lived
together.

One day there was a storm in the sea and the island was about to get
drowned.
Every feeling was scared but Love made a boat to escape..
Every feeling boarded the boat . Only 1 feeling was left.
Love got down to see who it was..
It was EGO..
Love tried and tried but ego wasn't moving also the water was rising.
Every one asked love to leave him and come in the boat, but love was
made to love.

At last all the feelings escape and Love dies with ego on the island..
Love Dies because of EGO...........

_________________
If they answer not to thy call walk alone,
If they are afraid and cower mutely facing the wall,
O thou unlucky one,
open thy mind and speak out alone.
RABINDRANATH TAGORE

Once upon a time there was an island, where all the feelings lived
together.

One day there was a storm in the sea and the island was about to get
drowned.
Every feeling was scared but Love made a boat to escape..
Every feeling boarded the boat . Only 1 feeling was left.
Love got down to see who it was..
It was EGO..
Love tried and tried but ego wasn't moving also the water was rising.
Every one asked love to leave him and come in the boat, but love was
made to love.

At last all the feelings escape and Love dies with ego on the island..
Love Dies because of EGO...........

_________________
If they answer not to thy call walk alone,
If they are afraid and cower mutely facing the wall,
O thou unlucky one,
open thy mind and speak out alone.
RABINDRANATH TAGORE

[Unnimaxx]

The Family of Negativity
'Feverishness' will create anger, and that whole thing will go on like that. From anger you get attachment, jealousy, frustration- --all this family of negativity will start.

Craving, Aversion, Feverishness
It is impossible to be without being with the five senses in the world---but the craving for it should drop. Because every craving or aversion creates a feverishness in the mind, and whenever the mind is in the grip of feverishness it is far away from love.

Dropping the Craving
Dropping the craving in the mind, or aversion in the mind, for any particular sense objects, strengthens the mind---and only a strong mind can ever experience Divine Love.

Unending Desires
Your mind is tired, is burned down through its galloping on desire after desire---it' s so tired! Just turn back and see all the desires you have achieved. Have they given you rest? No. They've only created a few more desires in you.

The Family of Negativity
'Feverishness' will create anger, and that whole thing will go on like that. From anger you get attachment, jealousy, frustration- --all this family of negativity will start.

Craving, Aversion, Feverishness
It is impossible to be without being with the five senses in the world---but the craving for it should drop. Because every craving or aversion creates a feverishness in the mind, and whenever the mind is in the grip of feverishness it is far away from love.

Dropping the Craving
Dropping the craving in the mind, or aversion in the mind, for any particular sense objects, strengthens the mind---and only a strong mind can ever experience Divine Love.

Unending Desires
Your mind is tired, is burned down through its galloping on desire after desire---it' s so tired! Just turn back and see all the desires you have achieved. Have they given you rest? No. They've only created a few more desires in you.

[Unnimaxx]

Just turn back and look at your life when you were a kid.
How many times have you cried?

You cried as though hell has fallen on your head. You thought that was the end of the world and then sobbed and sobbed and then went off to sleep.

So what happened afterwards? Anything happened to you ? You remains unaffected by all these......

Try this :

You can come home happily and say with a smile, "today the entire job that I did flopped! There was no success in any of the work I did today."
Anyway everything has flopped, so at least do not let the mind also flop.
You should have the guts to say "come what may I am not going to give up the smile on my face because I am much more than the event or the circumstances.
Everything comes and goes, but I continue in spite of all the situations."

When somebody has passed away, you cannot say "Okay, now I am going to be happy" and smile and dance! No, you should not do that.

The ancient people had designed a methodology for this.

They said that if anyone dies in a house, the people of that house are in âEUR~ashoucha' for 10 days. For 10 days you can mourn and cry.  After 10 days of mourning, on the eleventh day, they usually distribute sweets to the people, have a celebration, wear new clothes, have a family get together and have a feast.
.
On the day of the final rituals, they take some ghee and water and put it on their eyes which give a cooling effect and then they decide. "Okay, now we get on with our life."
If a spiritual person passes away, then even this not there. Then every moment is a celebration because the sprit is all pervading.

In the same way, there is shoucha when a child is born in a house for 10 days. You are so excited because a new soul has come into your family. So be with all the excitement and happiness for 10 days. You are free from all the social rules and obligations for you to enjoy 100 per cent.

Just turn back and look at your life when you were a kid.
How many times have you cried?

You cried as though hell has fallen on your head. You thought that was the end of the world and then sobbed and sobbed and then went off to sleep.

So what happened afterwards? Anything happened to you ? You remains unaffected by all these......

Try this :

You can come home happily and say with a smile, "today the entire job that I did flopped! There was no success in any of the work I did today."
Anyway everything has flopped, so at least do not let the mind also flop.
You should have the guts to say "come what may I am not going to give up the smile on my face because I am much more than the event or the circumstances.
Everything comes and goes, but I continue in spite of all the situations."

When somebody has passed away, you cannot say "Okay, now I am going to be happy" and smile and dance! No, you should not do that.

The ancient people had designed a methodology for this.

They said that if anyone dies in a house, the people of that house are in âEUR~ashoucha' for 10 days. For 10 days you can mourn and cry.  After 10 days of mourning, on the eleventh day, they usually distribute sweets to the people, have a celebration, wear new clothes, have a family get together and have a feast.
.
On the day of the final rituals, they take some ghee and water and put it on their eyes which give a cooling effect and then they decide. "Okay, now we get on with our life."
If a spiritual person passes away, then even this not there. Then every moment is a celebration because the sprit is all pervading.

In the same way, there is shoucha when a child is born in a house for 10 days. You are so excited because a new soul has come into your family. So be with all the excitement and happiness for 10 days. You are free from all the social rules and obligations for you to enjoy 100 per cent.

[Unnimaxx]

Positive Thinking?

The cause of depression in the world is "positive thinking".
You think positive, but deep inside you believe that there is a negative. The
more you try to force that positive thought, the more the negative thought goes
deep somewhere

Why Are You Sad?

Why are you sad? Why are you sorrowful? It is because of your craving.
You are holding on to the past. The sadness is a memory of the past;
a memory of craving from the past creates sadness now."

Shadows

Shadows appear very big, much bigger than you, but they have no existence. Smaller the
light, bigger the shadow appears. If it is total darkness, then also there is
no shadow. So partial knowledge, a partial light, partial vision, brings the shadow.
And it makes the shadow appear very huge, very big. But know it is just a shadow.

Positive Thinking?

The cause of depression in the world is "positive thinking".
You think positive, but deep inside you believe that there is a negative. The
more you try to force that positive thought, the more the negative thought goes
deep somewhere

Why Are You Sad?

Why are you sad? Why are you sorrowful? It is because of your craving.
You are holding on to the past. The sadness is a memory of the past;
a memory of craving from the past creates sadness now."

Shadows

Shadows appear very big, much bigger than you, but they have no existence. Smaller the
light, bigger the shadow appears. If it is total darkness, then also there is
no shadow. So partial knowledge, a partial light, partial vision, brings the shadow.
And it makes the shadow appear very huge, very big. But know it is just a shadow.