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srividyaa · Posted: Sat Jun 06, 2009 11:42 am Post subject: GURU and DISCIPLE

During one of his sojourns, the Guru gave his students a thin book to learn from while He was away ... for about a week

On his return, He asked them all whether they had learned the lessons. He had given them . All answered positively except his favourite student. He had not done the lessons.

The teacher asked him again in the hope that maybe there was some communication problem thing .. Maybe he hadn't heard him well. The student again answered that he had learned only one line from the book ..

The teacher blew his top so to say ... ONE WEEK and only a line .. and the boy had the impudence to say.. He had learnt just one line ....

The Guru smacked the boy across his face ...

The boy kept his face down in complete submission to his Guru ..

The Guru's face was still livid with rage ...

Again He asked him "How much did you learn?"

(Maybe the boy was joking at the Guru's expense)

"One line" answered the boy ...

SMACK!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!

This one resounded in the ashram ....

Even the other disciples were beginning to feel for one of their own now

The Guru asked him to get out of his sight ...

Wiping away tears, the boy went to a secluded corner of the Ashram while the rest went about their duties

Time it is said is the best healer ...

In a couple of hours as the Guru had cooled down and was handling other matters, He thought over the incident again ...He felt sorry for the boy ... He had never slapped any boy in his ashram ..and the boy was his favourite ....

He sent for the boy ...

The boy stood before him humble in his manner ..

The guru placed his hand on the boy's head and gently asked him,

"My dear, Show me .. What is the one line you have learnt?"

The student opened the book to the first page and the only line

He had taken over a week to learn ...

"Learn to control and be a master of your anger"

The Guru's hand trembled as the book slipped out of it ...

His heart filled up with remorse and guilt ...

He was the Guru and it was his duty to teach the students about Life

But in a week, the boy had learnt a lesson that He (the Guru) had failed

He embraced the boy hiding his tears ...

The student had taught the teacher ..

The Child had become the father of Man ...

The boy grew up to be known as Dharmraj Yudhisthir

and the Guru as Guru Dronacharya

.Yudhisthir did exactly what needs to be done today ... He took the lessons (idealism) from the book and brought it into real life ... He gave them form in real life ......No wonder the epithet "Dharmraj" became his Title of address

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srividyaa · Posted: Wed Jun 10, 2009 7:20 pm Post subject: Belief...........

There is a place in the HEART

where THOUGHTS become WISHES

and WISHES become DREAMS.

It's a place where anything is possible

if we onlyBELIEVE.

There are 5 things to believe in

for a happy, successful life:

Believe in your FAITH ...

Believe in your GOALS ...

Believe in your FAMILY ...

Believe in your FRIENDS ...

And most importantly,

Believe in YOURSELF!

If you believe in these 5 things

you can't go wrong.

Unnimaxx · Posted: Sun Jun 14, 2009 12:16 pm Post subject:

Parents, leaders, employers, teachers and volunteers have you discovered one of the great positive mysteries of life? Here it is - All life seems to wish to reward its benefactor.

If you become the benefactor, you will receive these incredible rewards. If you are the benefactor to the garden, the flowers seem to bloom and say, "Look at me. Look how bright and beautiful I am because you took care of me. I wish to reward you by being beautiful, lovely, spectacular."

Your own children, if you become their benefactor, they want to reward you with their progress. I taught my daughters how to swim. And my daughters would say, as they were about to dive, "Daddy, daddy watch, watch, look, look, watch" as if to say; 'look what you have created here, you've spent the time with me and now look at me. This is the payoff. ' Watch me dive." I was their benefactor.

I have found that all life wishes to respond to the benefactor. The ones who give their time, give their effort, give their patience, give their ideas, the benefit of their experience. Whatever has benefited from that, wishes to respond. The crop wishes to grow. The child wishes to show you how much progress they've made.

And remember that whatever you move towards tends to move towards you. Just as when you move toward education, and education starts to seek you out. Or when you move toward progress and progress seems to want to now embrace you. You will find that, just as predictably, as you move towards helping those in your care they will wish to repay you with their own success and accomplishments

Unnimaxx · Posted: Thu Jun 25, 2009 4:34 pm Post subject:

While collecting shells washed up on the beach,
you will see a few that are fragile,
and you might neglect them as unworthy.

But once these shells are very beautiful.
You don't know what kind of journey the had
to take to get them in there fragile shape.

Same with people. Don't neglect them if they seem unworthy.
You never know what journey they had through life.
Be kind to all.

U MUST CONTRIBUTE SOMETIMES TO REMAIN MAST EVERYTIME !

Unnimaxx · Posted: Mon Jun 29, 2009 7:09 pm Post subject:

We are not born with courage, but neither are we born with fear. Maybe some of our fears are brought on by your own experiences, by what someone has told you, by what you've read in the papers. Some fears are valid, like walking alone in a bad part of town at two o'clock in the morning. But once you learn to avoid that situation, you won't need to live in fear of it.

Fears, even the most basic ones, can totally destroy our ambitions. Fear can destroy fortunes. Fear can destroy relationships. Fear, if left unchecked, can destroy our lives. Fear is one of the many enemies lurking inside us.

Let me tell you about five of the other enemies we face from within. The first enemy that you've got to destroy before it destroys you is indifference. What a tragic disease this is. "Ho-hum, let it slide. I'll just drift along." Here's one problem with drifting: you can't drift your way to the top of the mountain.

The second enemy we face is indecision. Indecision is the thief of opportunity and enterprise. It will steal your chances for a better future. Take a sword to this enemy.

The third enemy inside is doubt. Sure, there's room for healthy skepticism. You can't believe everything. But you also can't let doubt take over. Many people doubt the past, doubt the future, doubt each other, doubt the government, doubt the possibilities and doubt the opportunities. Worse of all, they doubt themselves. I'm telling you, doubt will destroy your life and your chances of success. It will empty both your bank account and your heart. Doubt is an enemy. Go after it. Get rid of it.

The fourth enemy within is worry. We've all got to worry some. Just don't let it conquer you. Instead, let it alarm you. Worry can be useful. If you step off the curb in New York City and a taxi is coming, you've got to worry. But you can't let worry loose like a mad dog that drives you into a small corner. Here's what you've got to do with your worries: drive them into a small corner. Whatever is out to get you, you've got to get it. Whatever is pushing on you, you've got to push back.

The fifth interior enemy is over-caution. It is the timid approach to life. Timidity is not a virtue; it's an illness. If you let it go, it'll conquer you. Timid people don't get promoted. They don't advance and grow and become powerful in the marketplace. You've got to avoid over-caution.

Do battle with the enemy. Do battle with your fears. Build your courage to fight what's holding you back, what's keeping you from your goals and dreams. Be courageous in your life and in your pursuit of the things you want and the person you want to become.

srividyaa · Posted: Wed Jul 08, 2009 9:27 pm Post subject: Hope.......

Why does the sun rise
Why do we get up in the morning
Why is there breathe in our lungs
Why are we here
Hope
For hope we live

Not because the grass
Is green beneath our feet
Not because the clouds
Are calm above our heads
Not because the sunshine is warm
And the breeze cool on our sides
But for hope
For hope we live

Not because there are mangoes up the tree
But because there is seed in the ground
And there will be a harvest
Not because the well is wet
But look the clouds are gathering
And there will be rain
And rivers will flow
Rivers of joy
Rivers of peace
Of life
Hope
For hope we live

Why does a baby crawl
Why does a widow hum
Why does a builder
Place brick on brick on brick
Why does a fisherman
Cast his net upon a bare lake
Hope
For hope we live

Not because yesterday was full
Not because today is fresh
But because tomorrow is fertile
Hope
For hope we live
And hope does not
Let us down!

-- Submitted by Nickson Kirongo

Unnimaxx · Posted: Fri Jul 17, 2009 8:07 pm Post subject:

Sometimes it happens that you feel down and lost.

But there is a good point about this - you have

time to think, to concentrate and to check

your direction. Here is one practice that helps

you to accumulate your powers and find the

positive side. Meditate on these rules of life.

1. When you help others you help yourself automatically.

2. Your smile brings happiness to the world around you.

3. People are not perfect and that is perfect.

4. Your heart always sees the truth. Trust it.

5. You can do anything you want. What are your wants?

6. You are living to make this world better. Make the best of yourself.

7. Life is anything without happiness. Do what makes you happy.

8. You will never be completely happy without making others happy.

9. Your fears are illusory. Face your illusions.

10. Gratitude is important. Be thankful for the every moment of your life.

That is just the beginning - add your rules to this list. Let's make it together!

srividyaa · Posted: Sun Jul 19, 2009 10:14 am Post subject: The Need To Feel Special

From the time Jennifer was a little child, she was demanding of attention, especially from her mother, Sarah.

With two older brothers, Jennifer had a "special" place in the family as the baby and the only girl. She made sure to establish a "special" relationship with her mother, who relished the connection since she didn't have much of a relationship with her emotionally distant husband.

It was easy for Jennifer to control her mother's attention. Because her mother was needy for emotional connection and afraid of not being liked, all Jennifer had to do was get angry at her mother and Sarah would capitulate, giving Jennifer the attention she craved.

Jennifer learned early to control her mother by becoming angry, critical and withholding love when her mother didn't do what she wanted. Unwittingly, Sarah contributed to Jennifer's neediness, entitlement issues, and the belief that happiness was dependent on approval and attention from others.

Jennifer, now in her late 30's, finds herself continuing the pattern she started with her mother - attaching to others in needy and demanding ways. The result is she has not been able to have a successful relationship with any of the men she has dated.

We all have a need to feel special. It is not the need that is dysfunctional; it is how we go about getting the need met that can be either dysfunctional or healthy.

It is dysfunctional when we make others responsible for making us feel special. When others have to give us attention, compliment us, seek us out, and attend to our wants and needs in order for us to feel special, our behavior is dysfunctional.

Healthy Special-ness: You will stop pulling on others to make you special only when you accept the full responsibility of making yourself feel special. This means learning to give yourself all that you may be trying to get from others - treating yourself in the loving ways you desire from others.

There are many ways of making ourselves feel special. Instead of trying to get others to give you what you want, you can:

Take emotional responsibility:

Attend to your feelings throughout the day and explore what you may be doing that is causing painful feelings, rather than making others responsible for your feelings.

Attend to your own needs rather than expecting others to meet your needs.

Accept yourself rather than judge yourself. Validate yourself, approve of yourself - tell yourself the things you want to hear from others. Value your talents and gifts.

Value your intrinsic worth rather than just your looks or performance - your kindness, compassion, creativity, caring.

Behave in ways that you value - being loving, kind, integreous, compassionate, understanding, caring.

Pursue work you love, work that fulfills you, if possible.
Take physical responsibility

Feed yourself well to maintain health and appropriate weight.

Get enough rest and exercise.

Create balance between work and play and creative time.

Make sure you are physically safe such as when riding a motorcycle.
Take financial responsibility

Make sure you are financially independent rather than dependent upon another, if physically able to do so.

Spend within your means to avoid the fear and stress of debt.
Take relationship responsibility

Stand up for yourself and speak your truth rather than complying, defending or resisting in the face of others' demands or criticism. Don't be a victim.

Refrain from blaming others, with anger and criticism, for your feelings and behavior. Don't be a victim.
Take organizational responsibility

Do what you say you are going to do regarding time and chores.

Make sure your living space and work environment are clean and tidy, and esthetically pleasing.
Take spiritual responsibility

Take the time to connect with the love and truth of God/Higher Power.

Take time throughout the day to bring the love down to the level of your feeling self - your Inner Child.

Treating yourself in these loving ways will eventually result in feeling internally special rather than needing others to make you feel special.

--- Copyright © 2008 Dr. Margaret Paul
--- Submitted by Lauren C. --- New Jersey
Margaret Paul, Ph.D. Inner Bonding Educational Technologies, Inc.

srividyaa · Posted: Tue Jul 21, 2009 10:25 am Post subject: The Restless Mind

The Restless Mind
Thoughts claim our attention incessantly, and waste our time and energy on unimportant and useless matters. They actually rule our life. We have become so used to this slavery, that we take it for granted, and have become unconscious of this habit, except on certain occasions.

While breathing, we do not need to pay attention to each inhalation and exhalation. We become conscious of the process of breathing, only when we have some difficulty with breathing, such as when our nose is clogged, due to a cold, or when we are in an unventilated room.

It is the same with thinking. We become conscious of the constant onslaught of our thoughts, and of our inability to calm them down, only when we need to concentrate, solve a problem or study. We are also acutely aware of them when we have worries or fears.

Look at the following familiar situation. You need to study something for your job or for an exam. You sit comfortably on the sofa with the book in your hands and start reading. After a while you feel hungry and go to the kitchen to eat something.

You return to read, and then hear you people talking outside. You listen to them for several moments and then bring your attention back to the book.

After a while you feel restless and switch on the radio to listen to some music. You continue to read for a little while, and then remember something that happened yesterday, and you start thinking about it.

When you look at your watch, you are amazed to find out that one complete hour has passed and you have hardly read anything.

This is what happens when one lacks concentration. Imagine what you could have accomplished, if you could control your attention and focus your mind!

Work that requires physical strength, such as carrying heavy loads for example, develops physical strength. Yet, it is not as exercising daily to the gym in a systematic manner. It is the same with concentration. Reading, studying and trying to pay attention to what we do, develop some of this ability, but practicing exercises diligently each day is something else, it is like training in a gym.

srividyaa

Inner resistance to developing concentration

In order to develop this ability we have to train our minds. Most people think that concentration is a strenuous and tiring activity, and that it involves exertion and tension, which are difficult and unpleasant.

This belief starts at an early age. Parents and teachers expect children to study, do their homework and get good grades. This brings up in the children a feeling of being coerced and forced to do something they don't like doing. When they are too often told that they are not concentrating good enough, they develop a loathing for concentration, and often for studying too. These become associated with coercion, lack of freedom, doing something they do not like to do, and which is against their will. When they grow up, it is no wonder that their powers of concentration are weak, and they have no desire to strain their minds.

Though most people acknowledge the fact that good concentration is a great asset, yet most of them do nothing to strengthen it, mostly because they don't know how. Reading and thinking about its benefits, and about the reasons why it should be cultivated, can help to change the attitude toward it.

Concentration can be fun if approached in the right way. It should be practiced with joy, fun, optimism, and understanding of its great possibilities. It has to be approached in a positive manner and then success dawns.

srividyaa

The benefits of developing concentration

Sometimes you can find strong powers of concentration in yourself. When you really and earnestly want to excel in your studies, pass an important exam or solve a problem, this power becomes available to you. In such cases, it appears because of some need or desire, but developing it in a systematic way brings it under your control, and grants you the ability to use it intentionally, whenever you need it. To do so, you need to practice special exercises on a daily basis.

Here is what you can gain by developing this power:
-Control of your thoughts.
-The ability to focus your mind.
-Peace of mind.
-Freedom from futile and annoying thoughts.
-The ability to choose your thoughts.
-Better memory.
-Self-confidence.
-Inner strength.
-Will power.
-Decisiveness.
-The ability to study and comprehend more quickly.
-Inner happiness.
-Enhanced capability to develop psychic abilities.
-More powerful and efficient use of creative visualization.
-Enhanced ability to meditate.
-And much more...

Seems too good to be true? Develop the power of concentration and find out for yourself!

srividyaa · Posted: Tue Jul 28, 2009 2:41 pm Post subject: Thoughts and Mind

A man was sitting by a lake. He was throwing small pebbles into it from time to time. A young boy happened to cross by. He was intrigued to see that after every few minutes or so, the man would toss a pebble into the lake. The boy went up to the man and said, "Good pastime, this stone throwing, he?" "Hmmm," said the man.

He seemed to be deep in thought and obviously did not wish to be disturbed.
Sometime later, the man said softly, "Look at the water, it is absolutely still." The boy said, "Yeah, it is." The man tossed a pebble into the water and continued, "Only till I toss a pebble into it now do you see the ripples?" "Yeah," said the boy, "they spread further and further."

"And soon, the water is still again," offered the man. The boy said, "Sure, it becomes quiet, after a while." The man continued, "What if we want to stop the ripples? The root cause of the ripples is the stone. Lets take the stone out. Go ahead and look for it."

The boy put his hand into the water and tried to take the stone out. But he only succeeded in making more ripples. He was able to take the stone out, but the number of ripples that were made in the process were a lot more than before.

The wise man said, "It is not possible to stop the movement of the water once a pebble has been thrown into it. But if we can stop ourselves from throwing the pebble in the first place, the ripples can be avoided altogether! So too, it is with our minds. If a thought enters into it, it creates ripples.

The only way to save the mind from getting disturbed is to block and ban the entry of every superfluous thought that could be a potential cause for disturbance. If a disturbance has entered into the mind, it will take its own time to die down.

Too many conflicting thoughts just cause more and more disturbances. Once the disturbance has been caused it takes time to ebb out. Even trying to forcibly remove the thought may further increase the turmoil in the mind.

Time surely is a great healer, but prevention is always better than cure."

Before you allow a thought or a piece of information to enter your mind, put it through the triple filter test of authenticity, goodness and value.

srividyaa · Posted: Fri Aug 07, 2009 7:05 pm Post subject: Your First Loss r Defeat

Is not this crazy/madness????

To hate all roses because

you got scratched with one thorn...

Is not this crazy/madness????

To give up on your dreams

because one didn’t come true... .

Is not this crazy/madness????

To lose faith in prayers

Because one was not answered...

Is not this crazy/madness????

To give up on your efforts

Because one of them failed...

Is not this crazy/madness????

To condemn all your friends

Because one betrayed you...

Is not this crazy/madness????

Not to believe in love

Because someone was unfaithful or didn’t love you back...

Is not this crazy/madness????

To throw away all your chances to be happy

Because you did not succeed on the first attempt.... .

Is not this crazy/madness????

I hope that as we get on with life

We don’t give in to this madness

Remembering always ...

Another chance may come up

Another friend

A new love

A renewed strength..........

srividyaa · Posted: Tue Sep 01, 2009 7:37 pm Post subject: Motivational......

Try the best,

To be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind.

To talk health, happiness, and prosperity to every person you meet.

To make all your friends feel that there is something in them

To look at the sunny side of everything and make your optimism come true.

To think only the best, to work only for the best, and to expect only the best.

To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as you are about your own.

To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future.

To wear a cheerful countenance at all times and give every living creature you meet a smile.

To give so much time to the improvement of yourself that you have no time to criticize others.

To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.

To think well of yourself and to proclaim this fact to the world, not in loud words but great deeds.

To live in faith that the whole world is on your side so long as you are true to the best that is in you.

srividyaa · Posted: Sun Sep 20, 2009 11:21 am Post subject: HIP-HIP-HURRAY.......

No need to tell. No need to say.
We all are going to die some day.
For the sins we have done we need to pay.
Words will come back which we say.
Expect the end, more than tommorow, in today.
Don't step back from your part to play.
Your life... be it good, be it bad...
Be near God and always pray.
The world's very beautiful.
Let it be this way.
Till eternity, the times you have lived will always stay.
Live up these times in such a way.
That when you look back at them,
You feel to say... HIP-HIP-HURRAY!