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srividyaa · Posted: Mon Nov 30, 2009 7:38 pm Post subject: HAVE YOU WATCHED THEM SLEEP ???

HAVE YOU WATCHED THEM SLEEP ???

I RECEIVED a message on my Friendster account the other day. It was one of those forwarded messages, the type I would usually scan briefly before hitting "delete".
But this message written in Bahasa Malaysia, started with a simple question that caught my attention. A rough translation of it goes like this:
"Hve you ever watched your parents while they were asleep? Your father's body.once big and strong is weaker. Wisps of grey peek out from his hair, wrinkles now"scar" his forehead and face.
"This man works hard everyday and wouldsacrifice anything to make sure his family is provided for and his children get the best education possible.
"Or how about your mother, whose soft hands once cuddled and held you close when you were a baby? Now, those hands are dry and rough, bearing evidence of the challengesshe faced just for us.
"This woman takes care of our daily needs, constantly nagging and scolding us because of her love for us. But sadly, we often misconstrue her love as control and unfairness".
I have never thought of watching my parents while they slept. I've watched my cousins sleep when they were babies, all round and cuddly and sweet smelling. But watch my parents? No way!
But after reading this message, I realised that there was indeed much truth in it. In fact, my parents do not have to be asleep for me to realise that they have aged.
Just looking at my mother walk tells me that her legs are not as strong as they were before. Or hearing her ask me for help with that flowerpot in the garden, the one she used to be able to push and drag around the garden without my help.
Or watching my dad lift a 10kg baf of rice. I can easily carry that bag now. I am young. But to him, it is a struggle.
What do all these observations tell me? Yes, my parents have aged. They are ageing,just as I am ageing. But as I age towards my best years and become stronger, they in turn are becoming weaker. They were once the caregivers and i the receiver. in time, I know our roles will reverse. Like it or not, want it to or not, this is life.
I suppose I have always subconsciously thought that my parents would always be with me, never growing old, It took that message to make me realise that my parents are not immortal. that they, too, will one day leave the world and me. Until then, I will make good use of our time together.
By the way, I'm forwarding that message to all my family and friends to remind them to appreciate what they have now. It will not last...

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srividyaa · Posted: Tue Dec 08, 2009 7:26 pm Post subject: Receive the Reality..

There are things to choose
There are things to pass
Things to accept
And things to respect
.

There are options to pick
There are options to deny
Options to decide
And options to let go
.

Life circles around choices and options
Choose to be cheerful or gloomy
Choose to be lively or dismal
Choose to believe or refute
Choose the array and move on
.

Former brings people around you
Latter drags it away
Choice is yours, life is little
Receive the reality with grace
.

Living is all about cuts and collections!

srividyaa · Posted: Sun Dec 13, 2009 7:30 pm Post subject: Self Worth..........

In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing the question: "What kind of man are you looking for?"

She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye & asking, "Do you really want to know?"

Reluctantly, he said, "Yes."

She began to expound:

"As a woman in this day & age, I am in a position to ask a man what can you do for me that I can't do for myself?

I pay my own bills. I take care of my household without the help of any man.... or woman for that matter.

I am in the position to ask, "What can you bring to the table?"

The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to money.

She quickly corrected his thought & stated, "I am not referring to money. I need something more."

"I need a man who is striving for excellence in every aspect of life."

He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, & asked her to explain.

She said:

"I need someone who is striving for excellence mentally because I need conversation & mental stimulation. I don't need a simple-minded man.

I need someone who is striving for excellence spiritually because I don't need to be unequally yoked...believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe for disaster.

I need a man who is striving for excellence financially because I don't need a financial burden.

I need someone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman, but strong enough to keep me grounded.

I need someone who has integrity in dealing with relationships. Lies and game playing are not my idea of a strong man.

I need a man who is family-oriented. One who can be the leader, priest and provider to the lives entrusted to him by God.

I need someone whom I can respect. In order to be submissive, I must respect him.

I cannot be submissive to a man who isn't taking care of his business.

I have no problem being submissive...he just has to be worthy.

And by the way, I am not looking for him...He will find me. He will recognize himself in me. He may not be able to explain the connection, but he will always be drawn to me. God made woman to be a helpmate for man. I can't help a man if he can't help himself."

When she finished her spill, she looked at him.

He sat there with a puzzled look on his face.

He said, "You are asking a lot."

She replied, "I'm worth a lot."

--- Author Unknown --- Submitted by George Wachira --- California

srividyaa · Posted: Thu Dec 17, 2009 7:57 pm Post subject: Principles Of Life

Winning isn't everything but wanting to win is.

You would achieve more, if you don't mind who gets the credit.

When everything else is lost, the future still remains.

Don't fight too much or the enemy will know your art of war.

The only job you start at the top is when you dig a grave.

If you don't stand for something, you'll fall for everything.

If you do little things well, you'll do big ones better.

Only thing that comes to you without effort is old age.

You won't get a second chance to make a first impression.

Only those who do nothing do not make mistakes.

Never take a problem to your boss unless you have a solution.

If you are not failing, you're not taking enough risks.

Don't try to get rid of your bad temper by losing it.

If at first you don't succeed, skydiving is not for you.

Those who don't make mistakes usually don't make anything.

There are two kinds of failures: Those who think and never do, and those who do and never think.

Pick battles big enough to matter, small enough to win.

All progress has resulted from unpopular decisions.

Change your thoughts and you change your world.

Understanding proves intelligence, not the speed of the learning.

There are two kinds of fools in this world.: Those who give advice and those who don't take it.

The best way to kill an idea is to take it to a meeting.

Management is doing things right. Leadership is doing the right things.

Friendship founded on business is always better than business founded on friendship.
--- Compiled by Tony Peeris

srividyaa · Posted: Fri Dec 18, 2009 8:03 pm Post subject:

Imagine life as a game in which you are juggling some five balls in the air. You name them - Work, Family, Health, Friends and Spirit and you're keeping all of these in the Air.
You will soon understand that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back.

But the other four Balls - Family, Health, Friends and Spirit - are made of glass. If you drop one of these; they will be irrevocably scuffed, marked, nicked, damaged or even shattered. They will never be the same. You must understand that and strive for it."

WORK EFFICIENTLY DURING OFFICE HOURS AND LEAVE ON TIME. GIVE THE REQUIRED TIME TO YOUR FAMILY, FRIENDS & HAVE PROPER REST

srividyaa · Posted: Sat Dec 19, 2009 8:16 pm Post subject: GOD's HELP........

A man named Jack was walking along a steep cliff one day when he accidentally got too close to the edge and fell.

On the way down he grabbed a branch, which temporarily stopped his fall. He looked down and to his horror saw that the canyon fell straight down for more than a thousand feet.

He couldn't hang onto the branch forever, and there was no way for him to climb up the steep wall of the cliff.

So Jack began yelling for help, hoping that someone passing by would hear him and lower a rope or something. "HELP! HELP! Is anyone up there? "HELP!" He yelled for a long time, but no one heard him. He was about to give up when he heard a voice.

"Jack, Jack. Can you hear me?"

"Yes, yes! I can hear you. I'm down here!"

"I can see you, Jack. Are you all right?"

"Yes, but who are you, and where are you?

"I am the Lord, Jack. I'm everywhere."

"The Lord? You mean, GOD?"

"That's Me."

"God, please help me! I promise if, you'll get me down from here, I'll stop sinning. I'll be a really good person. I'll serve You for the rest of my life."

"Easy on the promises, Jack. Let's get you off from there, then we can talk."

"Now, here's what I want you to do. Listen carefully."

"I'll do anything, Lord. Just tell me what to do."

"Okay. Let go of the branch."

"What?"

"I said, let go of the branch." Just trust Me. Let go."

There was a long silence.

Finally Jack yelled, "HELP! HELP! IS ANYONE ELSE UP THERE?"

Have you ever felt like Jack? We say that we want to know the will of God, but when we find out what it is, we can't handle it. Sounds too scary, too difficult. We decide to look elsewhere. When He says, "Let go of the things that stand between you and Me, and trust Me with your life," it sounds pretty scary. But when we let go, we find freedom and safety in His hands.".

srividyaa

Strength of a Man
The strength of a man isn't seen in the width of his shoulders.It is seen in the width of his arms that encircle you.
The strength of a man isn't in the deep tone of his voice.It is in the gentle words he whispers.
The strength of a man isn't how many buddies he has.It is how good a buddy he is with his kids.
The strength of a man isn't in how respected he is at work.It is in how respected he is at home.
The strength of a man isn't in how hard he hits.It is in how tender he touches.
The strength of a man isn't how many women he's loved by.It is in can he be true to one woman.
The strength of a man isn't in the weight he can lift.It is in the burdens he can understand and overcome.

Beauty of a Woman
The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears,The figure she carries or the way she combs her hair.
The beauty of a woman must be seen from her eyes,Because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides.
The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mole,But true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul.
It is the caring that she lovingly gives, the passion that she shows,The beauty of a woman with passing years-only grows.
Lucky is the man who is the first love of a woman, but luckier is the woman who is the last love of a man.

srividyaa · Posted: Mon Jan 11, 2010 8:07 pm Post subject: A Difficult Decision......

In a small town, a person decided to open up his Bar business, which was right opposite to a Temple. The Temple & its congregation started a campaign to block the Bar from opening with petitions and prayed daily against his business. Work progressed. However, when it was almost complete and was about to open a few days later, a strong lightning struck the Bar and it was burnt to the ground. The temple folks were rather smug in their outlook after that, till the Bar owner sued the Temple authorities on the grounds that the Temple through its congregation and prayers was ultimately responsible for the demise of his bar shop, either through direct or indirect actions or means. In its reply to the court, the temple vehemently denied all responsibility or any connection that their prayers were reasons to the bar shop's demise. As the case made its way into court, the judge looked over the paperwork at the hearing and commented: "I don't know how I'm going to decide this case, but it appears from the paperwork, we have a bar owner who believes in the power of prayer and we have an entire temple and its devotees that doesn't."

srividyaa · Posted: Tue Jan 12, 2010 5:26 pm Post subject: Gist of Life .....

Gist of Life .....

1. ATTITUDE IS WHAT LIFE IS ALL ABOUT.......

SOLDIER : SIR WE ARE SURROUNDED FROM ALL SIDES BY ENEMIES ,

MAJOR: EXCELLENT ! WE CAN ATTACK IN ANY DIRECTION.

2. EVERY ONE KNOWS ABOUT ALEXANDER GRAHAM BELL WHO INVENTED

THE TELEPHONE,

BUT HE NEVER MADE A CALL TO HIS FAMILY. BECAUSE, HIS WIFE AND DAUGHTER WERE DEAF.

THAT'S LIFE " LIVE FOR OTHERS " .

3. THE WORST IN LIFE IS "ATTACHMENT "

IT HURTS WHEN YOU LOSE IT.

THE BEST THING IN LIFE IS " LONELINESS "

BECAUSE IT TEACHES YOU EVERYTHING AND, IF YOU LOSE IT, YOU GET EVERYTHING.

4. LIFE IS NOT ABOUT THE PEOPLE WHO ACT TRUE TO YOUR FACE
.....IT'S ABOUT THE PEOPLE WHO REMAIN TRUE BEHIND YOUR BACK .

5. IF AN EGG IS BROKEN BY AN OUTSIDE FORCE....... .A LIFE ENDS.

IF AN EGG BREAKS FROM WITHIN...... .LIFE BEGINS.

GREAT THINGS ALWAYS BEGIN FROM WITHIN .

6. IT'S BETTER TO LOSE YOUR EGO TO THE ONE YOU LOVE.

THAN TO LOSE THE ONE YOU LOVE ....... BECAUSE OF EGO .

7. A RELATIONSHIP DOESN'T SHINE BY JUST SHAKING HANDS AT THE BEST OF TIMES.

BUT IT BLOSSOMS BY HOLDING FIRMLY IN CRITICAL SITUATIONS .

8. HEATED GOLD BECOMES ORNAMENTS.
BATTED COPPER BECOMES WIRES.
DEPLETED STONE BECOMES STATUE.
SO, THE MORE PAIN YOU GET IN YOUR LIFE THE MORE VALUABLE YOU BECOME.

9. WHY WE HAVE SO MANY TEMPLES, IF GOD IS EVERYWHERE ?
A WISE MAN SAID : AIR IS EVERYWHERE , BUT WE STILL NEED A FAN, . TO FEEL IT .

10. WHEN YOU TRUST SOMEONE TRUST HIM COMPLETELY WITHOUT ANY DOUBT....... .......
AT THE END YOU WOULD GET ONE OF THE TWO :
EITHER A GREAT LESSON FOR YOUR LIFE OR A VERY GOOD PERSON .....

.

srividyaa

LET ME HELP - Good people/friends do this when they see someone hurt and jump to help. They are sure winners.

I UNDERSTAND YOU - A powerful tool for healing any relationship and become closer.

I RESPECT YOU - Another way of showing love in all interpersonal relationship.

I MISS YOU - This powerful affirmation tells the other person that they are wanted, needed, desired and loved.

YOU ARE RIGHT - Best effective in diffusing arguments.

PLEASE FORGIVE ME - Heals and restores broken relationships.

I THANK YOU - Gratitude is an exquisite form of courtesy.

COUNT ON ME - Loyalty is a special ingredient in any relationship.

I'LL BE THERE - A great gift to give for a relationship in need for renewing love and friendship.

GO FOR IT - Best way of supporting and encouraging the other person's dreams and desires.
AND THE BONUS

I LOVE YOU - The most important three words which cover all the above
--- Author Unknown --- Submitted by Tony Peeris

srividyaa · Posted: Wed Jan 20, 2010 7:54 pm Post subject: AGAIN AND AGAIN I LOVE TO FAIL

"I love to fail!

It brings me closer to success!
Our attitude towards failure gets formed very early in life. Usually in school…and it never just goes away. All through school, we perhaps take hundreds of tests, exams, assignments etc. And we are in BIG trouble if we fail even ONCE. So we are scared of failure. But real life is different. In real life failure is essential for us to move to the next level. Failure is a great teacher.

This is perhaps the biggest difference between real life and school. But by the time we finish school we are so conditioned that we are unable to bridge the gap. We unconsciously try and avoid situations which could result in failure. We therefore live our life like the straight line stock!!

Failure and creativity

Fear of failure hampers creativity. It’s not unusual for an individual to present a new idea, see it fail, then never again try something new. Fear of adverse criticism narrows creative potential.

On the other hand, a truly creative person thoroughly examines the failure to identify what went wrong and why. He turns failure into a learning experience.

Every bit of solid theory and evidence demonstrates that it is impossible to generate a few good ideas without also generating a lot of bad ideas.

The greatest failure of all, of course, is not to attempt a new idea.

Failure is not the opposite of success

Are success and failure opposites of each other? The answer is NO. The energy that creates great ideas also creates errors. Not achieving success is usually termed as failure. And ‘failure’ is so looked down upon that we sometimes avoid taking a shot at success. We forget that success and failure are actually neighbours or pals and success may only be an inch away from failure! Looking at failure as an antithesis of success is to lose our creative powers. In any case, if we are successful every time, it means our goal is not big enough!

If you aren’t allowed to fail, then you won’t risk anything. Then every idea has to be a “safe” idea, and you are no longer creating. You are simply doing it the way it has always been done.

A useful phrase to keep in mind is ‘THERE IS NO FAILURE, ONLY FEEDBACK’. This is a great thought that works especially well when we are trying out new things and thinking of new solutions.

We need not fear failure but we should try and learn how to fail intelligently!! When we try and not succeed, it is a good failure. The only ‘bad failure’ is not trying and not learning from mistakes

srividyaa · Posted: Thu Jan 21, 2010 7:47 pm Post subject: The moment you are in TENSION

The moment you are in TENSION

You will lose your ATTENTION

Then you are in total CONFUSION

This may spoil your personal RELATIONS

Ultimately, you won't get COOPERATION

And get things into COMPLICATION

Then you may raise CAUTION

And you have to take MEDICATION

Why not try understanding the SITUATION

And try to think about the SOLUTION

Many problems will be solved by DISCUSSION

This will work out better in your PROFESSION

Don't think this is a free SUGGESTION

It is only for your PREVENTION

If you understand my INTENTION

You'll never come again into TENSION!

srividyaa · Posted: Sat Jan 30, 2010 7:11 pm Post subject:

NEVER CRY FOR ANY RELATION IN LIFE BECAUSE FOR THE ONE WHOM YOU CRY DOES NOT DESERVE YOUR TEARS AND THE ONE WHO DESERVES WILL NEVER LET YOU CRY......... ........

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TREAT EVERYONE WITH POLITENESS EVEN THOSE WHO ARE RUDE TO YOU, NOT BECAUSE THEY ARE NOT NICE BUT BECAUSE YOU ARE NICE........ ......... ......

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NEVER SEARCH YOUR HAPPINESS IN OTHERS WHICH WILL MAKE YOU FEEL ALONE, RATHER SEARCH IT IN YOURSELF YOU WILL FEEL HAPPY EVEN IF YOU ARE LEFT ALONE....... ......... ......

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ALWAYS HAVE A POSITIVE ATTITUDE IN LIFE. THERE IS SOMETHING POSITIVE IN EVERY PERSON. EVEN A STOPPED WATCH IS RIGHT TWICE A DAY......... ......... ......... ........

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HAPPINESS ALWAYS LOOKS SMALL WHEN WE HOLD IT IN OUR HANDS. BUT WHEN WE LEARN TO SHARE IT, WE REALIZE HOW BIG AND PRECIOUS IT IS... *********

srividyaa · Posted: Wed Feb 03, 2010 6:44 pm Post subject: YOU ARE IMPORTANT

Always remember you are unique and you are important. There is no one else in the world quite like you. You are special. There never has been and there never will be anyone like you again.
Don't let people take away your respect for yourself. No matter what they say or do remember that you are very important and a worthwhile person, and always retain respect for yourself. They cannot take away your self respect and dignity, for you control what you think of yourself and no one else.
You have your own special qualities and talents, and though you may not have the talents and gifts that someone else has, you have your own talents and gifts that others do not have. No one else can be you. Only you can be you. Try to be the best you possible.
Remember also that you are important to other people. You cannot help but touch the lives of other people as you go through life. There are many people who need your love and support, and who look up to you, and want to emulate you. People you may not even be aware of need you, and watch your life, and if you give up and fail yourself, you are failing them and letting them down too. So don’t quit. Relax everything will be fine.

srividyaa · Posted: Fri Feb 05, 2010 7:01 pm Post subject: There Is Only One You

Look at your palm. Try checking to see if it's the same as your friend's. It's not, so don't even try.

You are a unique person, that’s why you have the name you have.

Even though you share the same name with countless people, it's just a name. God sent you down to earth to bloom, to sprout, to live out the message that's embedded in you, regardless of the name you bear, for whatever name you bear doesn't matter. What does is how we live the 'me' in our name.

We can have two Bill Gates or two Oprah Winfreys but that won't make them the same people. We've spent careless time trying to be that other person. That other person on television screens and glossy pages is not you; it's her, it's him.

You are the one here, creating your own memo, filling your own blanks and dreaming your own dreams. You're the one here, crying your own tears, facing your own fears and filling the world with your laughter.

How many times have you given up because you feel that what you're about to do has already been done before? I have, but that's not where you ought to throw in your towel.

Try a different approach and then a different one and then another different one. It's in those differences that you certainly get your marks.

Set expectations. You're not a Titan, so don't just go setting expectations and don't hope to transcend them. You need those expectations to check if you're on point.

When you throw in your towel at your first defeat, what've you learned? You don't have to know everything that's been written in the history books before you set out to make your mark.

You don't have to wait for that right time, when you've received all the degrees your name should have attached to it, before you can be the person you should be. There is no right time to start; you start first and you get it right.

You start now with that little in your hands, that fire in your heart and that faith you have in the God that sent Moses to Egypt with just a staff and his stutter.

When you wake up every morning, look at yourself in the mirror, even if it's only your eyes you see, and tell yourself this:

"God, it's another new day today. I didn't complete what I started yesterday. I may not even complete it today but I will complete it because only I can and only you can. Through these hands and through these eyes, you gave me the ability to see the world through rose-colored spectacles."

Now you go on out to the staircase of life; you may not see the stairs but just take a step.

--- Stanley Anukege