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Unnimaxx · Posted: Sun Aug 08, 2010 7:06 pm Post subject:

There is a place you can come where everything is beautiful. Tourists go from place to place looking for beauty. They try to take beauty from that place. They only get tired and tanned. Yet the most beautiful spot anywhere is right here. When you come here, you find that wherever you are, everything is so beautiful.
Where is this place? Don't look here and there. Where do you go? Within you. When you come here, then any place is beautiful. Then wherever you go, you add beauty there. If you are unhappy, even the moon is irritating to you. Sweet things are nauseating, music is disturbing. When you are calm and centered inside, noise is musical, clouds are magical, rain is liquid sunshine.

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Unnimaxx · Posted: Wed Aug 11, 2010 5:19 pm Post subject:

If you say that you have no one in this world, then you are disowning me. And if you disown me then I cannot do anything for you.
аWhat is Vivek? Vivek means knowing that everything is changing. Time and again you have to awaken to this -- that the world, the people, our body, our emotions, are constantly changing.

When you experience sorrow, understand that Vivek has been overshadowed.

Question: What am I here for?

Answer: Find out what you are not here for.
1. You are not here to blame.
2. You are not here to cry.
3. You are not here to sleep.
4. You are not here to show off.
5. You are not here to fight.
6. You are not here to be miserable.
7. You are not here to be angry.
8. You are not here to worry.

Unnimaxx · Posted: Sun Sep 05, 2010 10:54 am Post subject:

Often, in establishing your righteousness, you are insensitive to others' feelings. When someone is hurt, arguing with them and establishing your righteousness will be in vain. By saying a simple "Sorry", you can uplift the other and take away the bitterness. In many situations saying "Sorry" is better than establishing your righteousness. It can avert much unpleasantness.

This one word of five letters, when said sincerely can remove anger, guilt, hatred and distance.

Many people feel pride in hearing "Sorry" from others. This boosts their ego. But when you say "Sorry" to a wise man, it evokes compassion at your ignorance. However, when you say "Sorry" to your Guru, He will get angry and say, "Go! Listen to Ashtavakra!" (Laughter) For your saying "Sorry" indicates doership. You feel that YOU have MADE a mistake.

A mistake is part of an unconscious mind. An unconscious mind cannot do right. A conscious mind can do no wrong. The mind which makes the mistake and the mind which realizes the mistake - saying "Sorry" - are entirely different, aren't they? The mind which says "Sorry" cannot be an unconscious mind. Therefore, saying "Sorry" sincerely is a BIG MISTAKE!!!

Unnimaxx · Posted: Thu Sep 16, 2010 6:09 pm Post subject:

Many have a problem of letting go of control. This results in anxiety, restlessness and it sours relationships.

Wake up and see, are you really in control? What are you in control of? Perhaps a tiny part of your waking state! Isn’t that so?

    * You are not in control when you are sleeping or dreaming.
    * You are not in control of thoughts and emotions coming to you. You may choose to express it or not, but they come to you without your prior permission!
    * You realize that most of the functions of your body are not in your control, and the same for your life and the whole universe.

Similarly, do you think you are in control of all the events in your life or in the world? That is a joke!

When you look at things from this angle you need not be afraid of losing control, because you have none!

Whether you realise it or not, when you let go of your sense of control that is when you truly relax. Your identification of being somebody does not let you relax totally and it keeps your domain limited.

Unnimaxx · Posted: Fri Oct 01, 2010 10:09 pm Post subject:

Consciousness moving on the surface of the body is stimuli, which cause pleasure. When consciousness shrinks, then the sensation of pain and suffering arises. Suffering is the shrinking or contraction of consciousness.

When consciousness moves through the body in limited channels, pleasure is experienced. Repeated enjoyment of the stimuli causes inertia and dullness. Often cooks don't enjoy their own food. Listening to the same piece of music loses the charm, people in the sex industry don't enjoy sex. If the stimuli are observed, then consciousness expands and becomes peace. With awareness the stimuli lose their significance; whether they exist or not makes no difference. When the sun is there, then whether the candle is lit or not makes no difference. To realise that all pleasures are just stimuli and that you are more than the stimuli brings freedom.

Pain is nothing but consciousness wanting to expand and to become free. Freedom basically is liberation from the craving of the stimuli. Pain is not a permanent state. The natural tendency of consciousness is to expand, to become bliss. Like the natural tendency of water is to flow downward, and the natural tendency of air is not to be under pressure, the natural tendency of consciousness is to expand and to be at peace. Like the person who is an insomniac and has forgotten how to sleep, most of us have forgotten to be at peace and in bliss.

srividyaa · Posted: Wed Oct 27, 2010 12:20 pm Post subject: Date with a women....

After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman out

to dinner and a movie. She said I love you but I know this other woman

loves you and would love to spend some time with you.

The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my MOTHER, who has

been a widow for 19 years, but the demands of my work and my three

children had made it possible to visit her only occasionally.

That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie.

'What's wrong, are you well,' she asked? My mother is the type of woman

who suspects that a late night call or a surprise invitation is a sign

of bad news.

'I thought that it would be pleasant to be with you,' I responded. 'Just

the two of us.'

She thought about it for a moment, and then said, 'I would like that

very much.'

That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit

nervous.

When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be

nervous about our date. She waited in the door with her coat on. She had

curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate

her last wedding anniversary.

She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel's.

'I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were

impressed, 'she said, as she got into the car. 'They can't wait to hear

about our meeting'. We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant,

was very nice and cozy. My mother took my arm as if she were the First

Lady.

After we sat down, I had to read the menu. Large print. Half way through

the entries, I lifted my eyes and saw Mom sitting there staring at me. A

nostalgic smile was on her lips.

'It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small,' she

said.

'Then it's time that you relax and let me return the favor,' I

responded.

During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation - nothing

extraordinary, but catching up on recent events of each other's life. We

talked so much that we missed the movie.

As we arrived at her house later, she said, 'I'll go out with you again,

but only if you let me invite you.' I agreed.

'How was your dinner date?' asked my wife when I got home. 'Very nice.

Much more so than I could have imagined,' I answered.

A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened

so suddenly that I didn't have time to do anything for her.

Some time later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant

receipt from the same place mother and I had dined.

An attached note said: 'I paid this bill in advance. I wasn't sure that

I could be there; but nevertheless, I paid for two plates - one for you

and the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant

for me.

I love you, son.'

At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: 'I LOVE

YOU!' and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve. Nothing in

life is more important than God and your family. Give them the time they

deserve, because these things cannot be put off till 'some other time.'

srividyaa · Posted: Fri Oct 29, 2010 6:45 pm Post subject:

Challenge

Life can be a rocky road.

The Challenge is not to let it grind you into dust, but to polish you into a brilliant gem - J.M.Fogg

A routine of constant challenge builds strong beings, much as a good gym workout builds strong bodies.

Belief

What you believe yourself to be, you are - C.M.Bristol

Your beliefs shape your actions. Your actions create your results,

and those results, when stretched out over a lifetime, are what’s called your destiny

Purpose & Values

Great minds have purposes; others have wishes. - W.Irving

Purpose is your vision; It is the driving force in all accomplishments of greatness.

You don’t have to be famous to live a heroic life.

All that’s required is having a goal bigger than you are.

Our Values are the wellspring from which comes all that we want in life, everything we seek and search for.

Our values are the source of who we think we are.

Conquering Fear

The key to Conquering Fear lies in mastering Belief.

Failure and Success are just one of those things we make up.

All fears, including those most destructive such as fear of failure, are nothing more than a state of mind.

And if you want to walk around in a powerful state of mind that will have you on top of the world, bringing you great results you never dreamed were possible

- Fear kills creativity and imagination.

The true warrior is one who has the courage to do battle with the enemies within.

Attitude

Any fact facing us is not as important as our attitude toward it,  for that determines our success or failure - N.V.Peale

Positive attitudes create positive results.

Remember, before people buy anything you’re offering, they buy your attitude - no matter what you’re selling

Focus

Focus: point at which an object must be situated so that a well-defined image of it may be produced.  - The Oxford Dictionary of English Etymology

When you master the ability to Focus on anything, you will master that thing itself.

Focus your thoughts - you master your mind.

Focus your emotions - you master your heart.

Focus your creative attention - you master your imagination.

Focus is simply a matter of practice.

Focus

A chicken and a pig were having a discussion.

The chicken said,

“I am committed to giving one egg every day.”

“That’s not commitment,” the pig said.

“That’s just participation. Giving bacon, now, THAT’s commitment !”

Nothing happens without commitment.

Commitment is as simple as giving and keeping your word. Doing your best.

Commitment is doing what you said you would do

- whether or not you feel like it today.

If you fail in a commitment, take another look at it and ask yourself,

“Did I quit too soon?”

Desire

Ignore what a man desires and you ignore the very source of his power … - W.Lippmann

If you’re going to succeed, you’ve really got to WANT TO,

not just wanting to want to.

Goals

The purpose of goals is to focus our attention. The mind will not reach toward achievement until it has clear objectives… compiled by W.Davis

You will encounter people who react negatively to you goals.

The truth is, your goals scare the heck out of them.

If your goal makes you sweat a bit, then chances are it’s a really good goal - one that will stretch you.

People don’t plan to fail - people fail to plan

Choice
The greatest power a person possesses is the power to choose. - J.M.Kohe

We are all in possession of the power to shape our destinies, moment by moment, with choice.

The choice to Live with Passion is a moment by moment opportunity.

You will be presented with the choice again and again and again, throughout your entire life

Are you Living with Passion ?

If you’re not Living with Passion

- you are not living.

You are merely existing.

Choose to LIVE!!

srividyaa · Posted: Tue Nov 02, 2010 6:57 pm Post subject: Another Chance........

Another Chance........

How often we wish for another chance
To make a fresh beginning.
A chance to blot out our mistakes
And change failure into winning.

It does not take a new day
To make a brand new start,
It only takes a deep desire
To try with all our heart.

To live a little better
And to always be forgiving
And to add a little sunshine
To the world in which we're living.

So never give up in despair
And think that you are through,
For there's always a tomorrow
And the hope of starting new.

~Helen Steiner Rice~

srividyaa · Posted: Mon Nov 15, 2010 7:03 pm Post subject: Guaranteed Success

Guaranteed Success

No one else can guarantee that you will be successful or
Fulfilled in your life. And that's what makes success and
Fulfillment so desirable.

If you wish to experience life's true richness, you must
Make your own way toward it. Others can lead you and guide
You and encourage you, yet no one can do it for you.

You are blessed with the magnificent opportunity to express
What it means to be alive in your own unique way. The
Fulfillment of that opportunity, by very definition, must
Come from you.

The real meaning of accomplishment is not what you get.
Accomplishment has value because of what you put into it.

Though no one else can guarantee your success, you can
Guarantee it by making the commitment to do whatever you
Must do. You can guarantee it with your intention, your
Focus, your action and your persistence.

Today, tomorrow, in any place, whatever the situation, you
Can make a difference, for your own life, and for your
World. Grab that opportunity, make the most of it every
Chance you get, and you'll guarantee your own success.

~Ralph Marston

Unnimaxx · Posted: Wed Nov 17, 2010 4:45 pm Post subject:

Intimacy often gets broken because of ego or your desire. What breaks intimacy?

Ego or taking a position

Desire

Taking intimacy for granted

Finding imperfection in oneself or others

Expectations

Insensitivity or over sensitivity

Judgments

Grumbling or lack of gratitude

Dissolving into infinity is the way to maintain intimacy. Intimacy is dissolving into infinity. Dissolving into infinity brings you to the moment. Go beyond events. Dissolve into infinity, be in the moment, and look beyond the events. This is the way to maintain intimacy.

Unnimaxx · Posted: Fri Nov 19, 2010 7:10 pm Post subject:

Doubt cannot come where there is a sense of closeness. Doubt needs a distance to appear. You never doubt something that is dear to you, close to you.

The moment you doubt, it is no longer dear to you; a distance has come.

You may doubt yourself, but you do not doubt that which is yours.

Self-doubt is a lack of closeness to oneself, a sense of belongingness, closeness, intimacy are all the antidotes for doubt.

Unnimaxx · Posted: Sat Nov 27, 2010 8:39 pm Post subject:

What you are looking for in life is comfort. Why do you need money? Because you want comfort. Any need in any direction boils down to one word - comfort. There are many levels of comfort.1 : One is physical - if you are sitting on the grass you think, `oh, it would have been better if there was a cushion''.2 : Then there's mental comfort - this is even more essential. If you have a comfortable home but the mind is not comfortable, you will not be able to sleep even on a comfortable bed.3 : Another type is emotional comfort - you have everything, but if someone close to you doesn't speak to you or does something that hurts you, then your emotional comfort is gone.4 : Then there's spiritual comfort - this is comfort of the soul, which means total peace, an uninterrupted flow of peace, and joy from within. What is comfort ?Comfort means to be yourself. But where is comfort? Is it in the body or mind? It is in a combination of both. Sometimes when the
body is not comfortable, the mind is also not comfortable and vice versa. You may have a very nice bed to rest but if you are disturbed, you cannot sleep. More than the body, comfort of the mind is important. The mind is three times more powerful than the body so mental comfort is three times more important than physical comfort. And your comfort is based on commitment. So people's commitment brings you comfort. For example, the milkman's commitment to bring you milk gives you comfort. Similarly, your commitment should bring comfort to everyone else. Sometimes one says, ``Oh, I am stuck with the commitment so I am unhappy.'' Now, don't think every commitment will be smooth from the beginning. If you are committed to complete your medical course, then there is bound to be some rough time in between. But commitment can take you across all obstacles. And the greater the achievement, the greater the commitment. The more you commit, the more your
capacity and capability to do any work. Commitment is always about something a little more. You don't say, ``I am committed to drink a glass of water or walk one kilometer'', which you do anyway. If you think, ``I can only do this much work'', then your commitment has to be more than what you think you can do. Commitment is about stretching your capabilities.

Rummy26 · Newbie Joined: 29 Nov 2010 Posts: 4 Location: india

srividyaa

BABY giraffes never go to school. But they learn a very important lesson rather early in life. A lesson that all of us would do well to remember.

The birth of a baby giraffe is quite an earth-shaking event. The baby falls from its mother's womb, some eight feet above the ground. It shrivels up and lies still, too weak to move.

The mother giraffe lovingly lowers her neck to smooch the baby giraffe. And then something incredible happens. She lifts her long leg and kicks the baby giraffe, sending it flying up in the air and tumbling down on the ground. As the baby lies curled up, the mother kicks the baby again. And again. Until the baby giraffe, still trembling and tired, pushes its limbs and for the first time learns to stand on its feet.

Happy to see the baby standing on its own feet, the mother giraffe comes over and gives it yet another kick. The baby giraffe falls one more time, but now quickly recovers and stands up. Mama Giraffe is delighted. She knows that her baby has learnt an important lesson: Never mind how hard you fall, always remember to pick yourself up and get back on your feet.

Why does the mother giraffe do this? She knows that lions and leopards love giraffe meat. So unless the baby giraffe quickly learns to stand and run with the pack - it will have no chance of survival. Most of us though are not quite as lucky as baby giraffes. No one teaches us to stand up every time we fall. When we fail, when we are down, we just give up. No one kicks us out of our comfort zone to remind us that to survive and succeed, we need to learn to get back on our feet.

If you study the lives of successful people though, you will see a recurring pattern. Were they always successful in all they did? No. Did success come to them quick and easy? No, no! You will find that the common streak running through their lives is their ability to stand up every time they fall. The ability of the baby giraffe!

Have you heard about a young sales executive from Kolkata who dreamt about becoming an announcer on radio? He auditioned with All India Radio for a job. The authorities felt that he didn't have a particularly good voice and he was rejected. He refused to accept defeat and continued to chase his dream.

He tried for a role in the movies. He got rejected. They thought he was too tall. He kept trying and got a few lucky breaks. But most of his early films flopped. He did not give up. He played an angry young man in a movie that became a super hit. And the failed radio announcer went on to become the country's biggest superstar - widely admired for his baritone voice! His name? Amitabh Bachchan.
The road to success is never an easy one. There are several obstacles, and you are bound to fall sooner or later. You will hit a road block, you will taste failure. But success lies in being able to get up every time you fall. That's a critical life skill. And it's the habit of all successful people.

Learning to win in life is quite like learning to ride a bicycle. As you start to ride, you might fall and get bruised. It doesn't matter. You need to get back up and continue to ride. Fall one more time? Get back up again. That's all it takes. Learn to get back up every time you fall.
And just remember one more thing. Next time you find a friend or a parent kicking you, don't get upset with them. Like the mother giraffe, they may only be trying to teach you one of life's most important lessons.

It doesn't matter how many times you fall. What matters is your ability to pick yourself up and stand on your feet once again.

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The finest steel has to go through the hottest fire...!!!

Unnimaxx · Posted: Thu Dec 16, 2010 1:12 pm Post subject:

Whenever a boundary is broken, it creates some fear. The fear creates dislike. This dislike puts us back in the boundary. And to keep yourself in the boundary you put forth defenses. When you try to defend your position, it is such a stress, isn't it? And every time you try to defend your position it makes you more and more weak.

On the path, people even use the Knowledge as a defense against criticism! Don't use Knowledge as a defense.

The Knowledge is like an umbrella for you -- a shelter, not a weapon. Of course, sometimes "Don't use Knowledge as a weapon" becomes an excuse not to be in Knowledge! (Laughter)

I say, drop all your defenses. Anybody can make a mistake. Even you!

Don't defend your mistakes. Just accept them and move on. When you are totally defenseless, that's when you'll be strong.